I remember growing up thinking that my dad is a super hero. He just always seemed to know what to say and buy us (my siblings and i) gifts and he disciplined us less than my mum so that made him more lovable :).
Although i love my dad dearly and we are so close, in hindsight he was not so perfect. He was busy with work a lot, he spent most of his free time watching TV, i don’t remember him picking us up or dropping us from school, or teaching us household chores or anything domestic. But he was our dad and we loved him.
What does it mean to be a father?
The answer to this would be different for everyone based on their experience. In general, a father is the male parent of a child who trains and nurtures the child and is legally responsible for the child.
Our heavenly father is the perfect example of a father, he is loving, kind, present, faithful, patient, wise, forgiving, trustworthy, understanding, disciplines us, protects us, provides for us, guides us, lead us and i can go on and on. Our earthly fathers have probably failed us in one or more of the characteristics above and although this may have caused us pain or still hurts us, they are only human.
As Christians the role of a father is to be the prophet, provider and priest in the home. In the family he is to be an exemplary leader in the fear of God and in character. This is a huge responsibility and can only be achieved by total reliance on the heavenly father himself.
The bible tells us in Exodus 20:10 “Honor your father and your mother, so that you may live long in the land the LORD your God is giving you”. We also have a responsibility to our parents not only them to us. This means to appreciate them, accept their authority (especially if you are young but in line with God’s word), respect them, and provide for them. The Bible does not say Honor only if your father is a perfect father like your heavenly father. As young adults, one of the practical ways to honor our fathers is to start with forgiveness, esteem them, seek their wisdom and provide for them.
Looking back at my experiences, i see several ways in which God filled up the gaps my dad did not fill especially spiritually. And in hindsight i can boldly say God has been a good father to me, much more than i could ask for or deserve. As we celebrate father’s day today, i would like to appreciate my heavenly father. And as i read the verse to Honor my father today, i am reminded to honor Yaweh, the father of fathers who has never failed me and has loved me unconditionally since my birth.
Happy father’s day to all fathers.